you will always miss me

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you will always miss me, I know that.

you will try to convince yourself this fire between us died

every time you think of me

but deep in the back, of those dusty corners of your heart

you will always know I miss you too

My lasting hope is that all this missing

will turn into a brave man learning to leave his heart supple

and be in love.

But I know fairytales don’t happen everyday….

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Why I won’t be a “Netflix and chill” girl

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Why I won’t be a “Netflix and chill” girl

Elvis wondering if you’re lonesome tonight is a thing of the past. These days all I can seem to get out of a “man” is “wanna come watch some Netflix and order pizza”. Excuse me if I’m wrong but isn’t a “date” something like dinner and a movie….OUT? What happened to the courting of a woman? Am I just not one of the millions of girls who will do it anyways?

What happens when I agree to your less than perfect date night:

You think I’m easy

Easy going yes, I’m a lot of laughs and witty comebacks but I am not a easy lay. Even if I want to have sex with you, you need to show me you have the ability to treat me like a woman.

It tells me a lot about the type of man I’m interested in

If all of his relationships start with “Netflix and chill” nights what does that say about him? He wants instant gratification. He already doesn’t respect you. He doesn’t seem to want to put in the work right from the bat so why would I continue on? What is later going to look like?   Now I want him to surprise me with flowers and dinner? Why? You didn’t need it in the beginning so now he thinks you are so easy going that he never has to do a thing for you. This is not the impression I want to portray with my new date.

I know you already don’t respect me

If he doesn’t have enough initiative to take you out, why move things forward? If all I’m good for from day one is a movie and cuddles on a couch, which he wants to lead to sex, than what else is there to look for? A man who respects you is going to try to impress you because you are a lady. You are what he wants, he sees potential in you, and most importantly he respects you.

I am just like every other girl

No, I’m not. I refuse to be the easy going “sure I’ll come cuddle on your couch and hell I’m into you enough why not let things go to sex” kind of woman on a first or second date. Lets be honest, if I was would you be that into me? Probably not, I stand out and you like that, if you truly have interest in me you’ll want to impress me.

He wins the chase

There’s nothing more enthralling and exciting than the chase. Guys love a good chase, you’re not easy and damn that’s sexy when it comes down to someone who likes you. You won’t lose him by not agreeing to a Netflix and chill night unless he truly didn’t like you to begin with. If anything you up the anti and he’s preparing his next date idea. Which I promise will be ten times better than a “Netflix and chill night”

Gentlemen we know life is expensive, if all you can afford is a ten dollar night so be it. Ice cream is currently going for $3.99 a scoop at local ice cream shops. Ice cream and a walk around a park would be a much sweeter way to get to know someone and a lot more tactful than Netflix. So guys, please stop with the cheesy movie nights at home on date one or two. Save that for down the road a bit, it’ll feel more special then. We all know, women love to feel special. Plus consider it a bonus, the crazy date you had, doesn’t know where you live now.